“The garden of the world has no limits, only your mind.”
-Rumi
Definition
Limits are something common to talk about in any sexual relationship, but especially in ones that are kinky. It’s important to know what someone’s limits are because that will tell you the things that they do not want to do. If you cross someone’s boundaries or don’t respect their limits, they will not be too happy with you. Before you embark onto a BDSM relationship you might want to search online to find a checklist of different things that are common limits that many people have found helpful before. That way you can know what all of your limits are – separately and together.
Common Limits
Common limits involve age play, anything that would involve a trip to the zoo, and things that are a bit too messy or involve too many filthy bodily fluids. You will not be surprised to find that many of the things we describe here are limits to some, like knife play and edge play. Many people also do not like to dabble in needles or anything that has to do with poking or pricking the body. Some who have had health issues in the past abhor medical play, because it reminds them of their trials and tribulations. Whatever limits your partners have for any reason, it’s important to respect them!
Protocol
It might seem like a buzzkill to bring up limits if you are in the middle of a hot hook up but it is definitely worth it so you will have the knowledge that you have not broken anyone’s boundary in the session so it will be more fun for you. Make sure to put a safeword in place so that if they come up with a boundary at the last minute they have an easy way to let you know during the middle of playtime. That makes it easy for you to just relax and have a good time during any sexy times.