“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
-Dr. Seuss
Definition
Someone who is demisexual doesn’t usually feel sexual attraction, however, if they form a close emotional bond with someone then they might start to feel some sexiness getting started in their loins. Most people who are demisexual say that they have only ever felt attracted to a few people in their whole life, and some of them have only felt attracted to just one person. Some of them are also even demiromantic, meaning that they don’t even form a romantic connection with someone until meaningful friendship happens.
How Do You Know?
How will you know if you are demisexual? Well, if you aren’t really sexually active or interested in sex then you may already know you are on the asexual spectrum, which is what this identity is a part of. If you are demisexual, you may think you are asexual for a while, until you develop an important relationship with someone who will awaken the sexual desires that do live within you. Don’t be afraid of these sudden urges, as they are really fun to explore with someone who you trust.
Meeting Like-minded People
If you are demisexual, then you may want to hang out with other people who are on the asexual spectrum because they can relate to your specific issues and thoughts in life. You can always look online to find asexual meetups and clubs in your area in which you can talk to other people. If you’re new to realizing that this is how you are in life you can get tips and advice from people who have been living in this identity for much longer. There is always strength in community, and as this is a newer field of research and study in sexuality, finding people with real life experience can be a great thing.