Bondage

“You are the evil scientist of your desires.”

-Ignacio Rivera

Definition

Bondage is the act of tying someone up or restraining them using some kind of object. There are many ways to perform bondage, and while some of them require an amount of skill, most of them can be done by just about anyone. Of course there are people out there who are more serious bondage fetishists, but there’s no requirement to start experimenting. You can just whip out some of your favorite neckties or scarves and have a fun, sensual and exploratory evening, where one of you is submissive and helpless and the other one is on top.

Different Methods

There are many different ways to tie someone up. You can use some cuffs already made by someone else, from an online or local sex shop. We’re not only talking about handcuffs here – you can also try leather cuffs or neoprene cuffs, which are the most comfortable. You can use cuffs for both wrists and ankles to restrain someone in a variety of ways. You can also try rope bondage, which does require a bit more expertise. You can tie someone up using safe methods found online or in a book, until you learn to memorize some of the most perfect ties out there!

Beginner Fear

If you are trying out bondage for the first time it is common for both the Dom and the sub to get a bit nervous. There’s no need to worry, as there are plenty of things you can do to make sure things go smoothly. First of all, keep in mind that bondage doesn’t have to do with pain, it has to do with sensuality. You can tie someone up and tease them, filling them with pleasure. You can give them multiple orgasms, watching them overload with feeling good. You can tickle them, which certainly isn’t painful, and you can also just sit there and watch them squirm in their bonds.

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Bodystockings

“The human body is the best work of art.”

-Jess C. Scott

Definition

A body stocking is a piece of clothing that is all one piece. It covers the body from the torso and legs, and sometimes the arms too. It can be a tank top bodysuit, or with short sleeves or long sleeves. They are usually made of see-through material similar to what stockings are made of. As such there are nude colored bodystockings, fishnet material ones and other types of bodysuits to suit any interest and go with any frame. They are generally considered to be a part of sexual attire, but some ladies like to wear them to keep their tights from falling down during the day!

How Do You Even Put This Thing On?

With a body stocking, you might be wondering how to put it on, because it is made of a delicate material and supposed to cover your whole body. Well, the answer is pretty simple. You put it on very much like you would put on a pair of stockings. You roll down the torso part and scrunch up the leg you are about to stick in. Do that for both legs, and when those are in, just pull up the torso part, put the straps or sleeves on and you should be ready. It’s a stretchy material which makes the whole process easier. If you have to go to the bathroom, you will be glad to know that they make crotchless bodystockings too!

Why It’s Sexy

A bodystocking is sexy because it is usually somewhat transparent, so it pretty much allows you to see everything underneath. People who have a fetish for certain materials like nylons or fishnets will love a body stocking even more, because it is made from those materials. They can basically be encased in it, or see their beautiful lover or sex partner covered by their fetishized materials.

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Blonde

“Gentlemen prefer blondes.”

-Anita Loos

Definition

Blondes are girls with light colored hair. Many of them have dyed it, but it’s always impolite to ask about that. Blondes are associated with fun and sexiness, but don’t judge a book by its cover! Just like any girl, a blonde can be any type of person. Their hair colors range from honey blonde and strawberry blonde all the way up to platinum blonde, which is nearly white in color. Some of the most popular stars of all time – both pornstars and celebrities – have been blondes.

Famous Blondes

All the way back to Marilyn Monroe, blondes have been very popular in pop culture. More recently, Pamela Anderson and Jenna Jameson have both been super popular blondes. Ms. Jameson is considered one of the most successful pornstars of all time! Phoenix Marie and Courtney Taylor are two bootylicious pornstars who usually sport blonde hair. Summer Brielle is a blonde MILF who fully espouses the doll physique, with plump lips and giant fake tits. Mia Malkova is also a beautiful blonde cutie who loves to get fucked on camera. There are countless other blonde pornstars who you can see sucking and fucking at a moment’s notice.

Finding Blondes

It’s fair to say that blondes are some of the most coveted chicks around. Where can you find them? Well, the most easy way to find one is to watch them in a porn movie. Most porn sites have the perfect way to filter them out so you can see only blondes in your porn movie selection. Otherwise, you can always use an online dating site. But beware, because girls can change the color of their hair faster than they can change their clothes. She might be blonde one day and then brunette the next!

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Blindfolds

“If I were blind, I’d wear a blindfold all the time.”

-Demetri Martin

Definition

A blindfold is something that you can use to temporarily block someone’s sight. It is usually just a piece of cloth or a fabric which covers the eyes. A blindfold can make a person feel kind of vulnerable, since sight is a sense that we rely on all the time. There are many different types of blindfolds and many reasons that people use them. They can be used in a sensual manner or in a way that is cruel in terms of BDSM play. There are lots of ways to use blindfolds in bed, and all of them are sexy and fun!

Types of Blindfolds

A simple mask worn to bed or on a plane to block out the light can make a great blindfold, as can a dark-colored scarf or necktie. You can also find high quality blindfolds at sex stores, in a variety of materials from latex to leather and many types of cloth. There are blindfolds that lock onto a person’s face so they can’t take them off, and blindfolds that are part of a whole head harness which also includes a gag. Many hoods also include a blindfold component, but those are considered to be more restrictive.

How To Use A Blindfold

If you want to use blindfolds in play-time, you should establish a safeword. It’s simply good practice when dealing with BDSM activities. You should also come up with an idea for what to do with them. A great idea for first time blindfold usage is to do a tasting of some sexy foods. Have strawberries, chocolates, whipped cream and some honey all on order. Don’t forget to put a few body parts in there like fingers, nipples and cock! Other ideas include a sensual blindfolded tease where you work your partner up to a big orgasm or a naughty spanking where you can surprise them with caresses and spanks to mix it up.

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Black Hair

“Black hair, angelic face, devil eyes.”

-Ilona Andrews

Definition

Black hair color is the darkest hair color there is. It is actually the most common hair color to have because many different cultures have it as their predominant trait for hair color. Some girls might have brown hair that is so dark you can mistake it for black, but if you look closely you will see that there is actually a difference. There aren’t too many variations in black hair color but some call hair jet black or soft black, referring to shades of darkness. Some scientists believe that black hair was the original hair color of all humans, and anything else is a genetic variation.

Black Hair Pornstars & Celebrities

If you have a fetish for people with black hair, you will certainly want to know who to watch online. Beautiful Kim Kardashian has been rocking a black hairstyle for a while, but she has been known to change it up with a dye job once in a while. Celebrities like Megan Fox and Dita Von Teese also have black hair most of the time. As for pornstars who rock a dark-headed look, you will definitely want to check out Kristina Rose, the girl with an LA face and an Oakland booty, and India Summer, a MILF with an all-natural body. Many black or Asian pornstars also keep their natural black hair.

Stereotypes About Black Hair

Compared to blondes, girls with black hair are considered to be smarter. No one really knows if that is true or not, but simply the perception could make a big difference. Some dark haired girls find that if they change their hair over to blonde, there is a big change in how people treat them! Girls with black hair are also considered to be more serious and less fun-loving, though you should keep in mind that as with any stereotype, this really depends on the person.

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Cumming on Figurines

“The woman is the most perfect doll that i have dressed with delight and admiration.”

-Karl Lagerfeld

Definition

Cumming on figurines is a unique fetish that seems to have developed as something silly on the internet, but then some people actually found it pretty hot. You can find photos of it on some adult-oriented social media sites and channels, where guys post pictures of their favorite figurines, both before and after getting covered in cum. Most of the figurines used are sexy hentai characters or babes in various states of undress, but sometimes they are something more weird and less sexual.

Why?

Some people like this fetish because these figurines are quite small, and they are usually hardly wearing any clothes. Some guys love to imagine that they can really drench a girl in jizz and cumming all over a tiny little figurine helps make their fantasy come true. For others, it’s simply that they feel like they will never get that close to their fantasy of a hot girl with giant tits and hardly wearing any clothes, and that cumming on a figurine that looks like that is the closest they will get. Finally, some guys know that some anime characters could never exist in real life, so they are happy to jizz on their figures as a close second.

Watching

There are also a lot of women who enjoy watching the guys cum on animated figures. If you have never seen this, you may want to give it a try simply because it is interesting to see and unexpectedly mesmerizing. A lot of women who have a fetish for cum in general love to watch these types of videos, because it involves hot girls and lots of jizz – which incidentally is the same reason why guys like it too!

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Fifties Household Fetish

“The fifties – they seem to have taken place on a sunny afternoon that asked nothing of you except a drifting belief in the moment and its power to satisfy.”

-Elizabeth Hardwick

Definition

The 1950s were a time when things seemed idyllic. The sitcoms of the era show perfect families with put-together wives who worked hard to serve their families in proper outfits complete with girdles and stockings. They always had a roast on the table and their hair done perfectly. The fashions of the era were sexy yet modest, and the women were like mythical creatures who were dedicated to their husbands’ happiness. This has caused some people of this modern era, nearly 70 years later, to fetishize the 1950s and live their lives dedicated to recreating the ideal of a woman who serves the home and dresses in the style of the era.

How To

If you’re new to this fetish, you’re not going to get your wife to quit her job and wear poofy skirts right away! But it can be fun to play one night a week, especially if you are into BDSM and enjoy a dom/sub relationship, which is what most people like about this ever more popular fetish. You can easily get 1950s style outfits at a thrift store or at any rockabilly type of shop online, and it can be fun to have your female partner cook you a dinner and rub your feet after work as a sign of her subservience. In this fetish, hard sex or fetish play might not even present itself at all, as the couple gets a sexual thrill out of preserving this traditional type of relationship in which the woman serves the husband at his every whim.

Spice it Up

For those who aren’t necessarily into preserving the old way of life, but who still find girdles and vintage hairstyles exciting, you can emulate images of the day which include cute girls getting spanked in their vintage style lingerie, immaculate red lipstick wrapped around a cock in a blow job session, or simply making out in your car at the local look-out point. While these wouldn’t be traditionally part of the 1950s household fetish, it’s a way to draw inspiration from this unique play style to spice up your regular sex life.

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Anonymous Sex

“Familiarity breeds contempt — and children.”

-Mark Twain

Definition

An anonymous sex fetish is when a person gets sexual arousal from not knowing who their sexual partner is. It is a “no strings attached” sexual encounter. This fetish can be about needing truly anonymous sex or simply an anonymous sex fantasy.

Who are you again?

There are a lot of reasons why people get into anonymous sex. For some, it is the excitement of having “no strings attached” sexual encounters. They meet, they have sex, they leave. It is done. For others it is about being objectified. It is deriving sexual arousal from the sexual encounter not being about you as a person but you as a sexual body or sexual object. Anonymous sex is typically about the physical experience and is devoid of emotions. It can also be a way to partake in sexual fetishes without feeling judged. If you are never going to see the person again, and you don’t know who they are, how can they judge you?

Fantasy vs. Reality

Some people are able to participate in an anonymous sex fetish through fantasy role-playing. In fact, it is a common one that you see acted out in public. One person walks up to another person in a bar and suggests they have sex in the bathroom, or they come back to a hotel around the corner. Couples will often use this fantasy as a way to try to spice things up in the bedroom. Of course, this is not true anonymous sex. 

Typically the fetish for anonymous sex requires true anonymity. There are many other fetishes that overlap with this in their expression, such as sex parties where you don’t know your sexual partner, or having sex while blindfolded or masked. The movie Eyes Wide Shut pushed the boundaries in film when it showed anonymous group sex. 

Risks

There can be a lot of risk associated with anonymous sex. Without knowing your partner you cannot know if they are free of STDs. There is also the risk of someone not respecting consent or doing things with you sexually that are beyond your comfort zone. Sex parties where people are screened are typically much safer than picking someone up at a bar. If you are going to have anonymous sex, make sure to use a condom. 

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Authoritarians

“Two and two make five.”

-George Orwell, 1984

Definition

An authoritarian fetish involves experiencing sexual arousal from enforcing strict behavior and obedience at the expense of personal freedom, or from having such a behavior enforced on you. 

Sex and Power

Why are we so attracted to people in positions of power? Part of it is because having relations with people in authority positions is typically taboo. Students are not allowed to have sex with teachers. Employees are not allowed to have sex with bosses. But authority and authoritarians are a bit different. Authoritarians are not just demonstrating power and control, they are exerting unyielding power and control. In this fetish, this power and control is often over your own body. For many people in the 24/7 lifestyle adding an authoritarian element is common, because it means turning over complete control of one’s personal freedom to another person.

Giving Up Control

A core part of the authoritarian fetish is giving up control. If you are the sub then you are giving up complete control to your Dom. If you are the Dom you are having complete control given to you. It is about having someone fall in line and be obedient, without question, no matter what. People who are in power positions in real life like to engage in authoritarian scenes as subs, so they can feel the release of giving up all power. For people who feel powerless in life, being in an authoritarian relationship or scene can give them control and a sense of power when they don’t have it anywhere else. 

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Agalmatophilia

“It is an anxious, sometimes a dangerous thing to be a doll. Dolls cannot choose; they can only be chosen; they cannot ‘do’; they can only be done by.”

-Rumer Godden

Definition

Agalmatophilia comes from the Greek word for statue and love. It is a sexual attraction to a doll, statue, mannequin, or body-shaped objects (think man pillows). Typically the attraction is to objects resembling nude people but can deepen to real emotions for nude and non-nude people-shaped objects. It is also known as object sexuality and as doll fetish. This is not the same thing as dollification, which is someone dressing up as a doll.

All Dolled Up

Agalmatophilia typically involves sexual acts, sexual thoughts, and sexual fantasies involving dolls. A lot of jokes have been made over the years about sexual interactions with blowup dolls, and those are often used as bachelor party gifts. However, the blowup dolls exist because the interest is real. 

Dolls & Japan

In Japanese mythology the doll is considered a soul bearer and is connected to the dream world. They can be used in stories to both scare and reassure. It is said that the doll traps man in the world of the fantastic. In an essay by Japanese writer Edogawa Ranpo, she says that dolls are the ultimate fetish because of the ability to be an erotic stimulus, a partner, an object of veneration, a tool for transgressive desires and expressing hidden desires. They can also be a receptacle for love. Someone may not be able to love a person, or be in a loving relationship with a person, but they can do so with a doll. 

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