Hyper/Hypo Sexuality

“Nymphomaniac: A woman that has more sex than you.”

-Dossie Eaton

Definition

Sometimes people have more or less sex than what people consider being usual, and for the most part that’s OK. However, some people feel that this can become a problem in life, which is when it is known as hypersexuality – when someone has too much sex – or hyposexuality – when they don’t have any sex. At one time hypersexuality was known as nymphomania, and you may have heard the term nymphos being used to describe people, especially women, who like to have sex a lot, but it’s an incorrect term to be used unless a doctor or mental health professional has diagnosed it.

When Sex Is A Problem

Having sex isn’t a problem unless you think it is! If you do think your libido has become an issue for you, go to a trusted health professional so they can check on your hormone and endocrine systems to see if there is something internal going on with your sex drive. Sometimes when someone is not interested in sex, which is hyposexuality, there can be other things at play, like depression or other mental health issues. Many times different medications prescribed for other health issues can be the cause of such a problem too. More people feel like hyposexuality is an issue than the opposite side of the pendulum, but others are simply just not as sexually voracious, and that’s OK with them!

Symptoms of Other Things

As previously mentioned, sometimes these types of behaviors are symptoms of other problems. For example, a lack of interest in sex could be indicative of depression. However, having a lot of sex could be an indicator of borderline personality disorder. The main thing to remember is that if you’ve always been a certain way, it’s probably not a problem, but if your behavior, or that of someone you know, changes rapidly, then you might be worried. However, to be honest, everyone’s behavior fluctuates a lot in life!

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Obscene Phone Calls

“All phone calls are obscene.”

-Karen Elizabeth Gordon

Definition

If you find yourself making telephone calls to strangers and places of business and asking them if their refrigerator is running, you might just be a jerk. If you find yourself doing this and asking them sexual questions, then you might be an obscene phone call fetishist. These are people who get off on surprising unsuspecting people with “obscene” questions and inappropriate statements that they don’t know how to react to. Technically it is considered a form of exhibitionism and it is also called telephone scatologia.

It’s Not Great

To be truthful, making an obscene phone call and surprising someone on the other end isn’t great. It can really hurt people’s feelings, and for others who are dealing with other problems it can affect their mental health. If you want to explore this fetish, it might be best to call a phone sex provider or phone sex chat line where you can consensually explore your desire to get off on the phone and talk about dirty things. Otherwise, you’re really not being nice at all. In fact, if you get caught making obscene phone calls you could get in trouble – in the US it is a class one misdemeanor!

If You Receive a Call

If you receive an obscene phone call, the important thing to remember is to not take it personally. It’s not about you, it’s just someone who has this sexual attraction to making people feel uncomfortable on the phone. Perhaps they are looking for a rise out of you. The best thing to do would probably be to just hang up the phone and go on with your day. If you feel bad about it, call a friend to commiserate about it, but don’t let it ruin things for you!

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Plushies

“I’m going to begin purchasing stuffed animals and endowing them with the qualities people in my life lack.”

-Dov Davidoff

Definition

Plushies are often confused with furries, but they are totally different in reality. Plushies are people who enjoy having sex or getting sexy with stuffies, and furries are people who like to dress up in costumes that resemble the toys. Sometimes the two are referred to as being in the same universe or world, even though they are pretty different. With plushies, they often modify stuffed toys to be more functional as sex toys that might involve attaching a dildo or cutting a hole and inserting a masturbation sleeve.

Plushie Origins

People don’t really know how this fetish originates because it seems to pop up organically in people. Most think that is might have to do with how good plush toys make people feel when they first play with them. If you used to be particularly obsessed with collecting them and surrounding yourself with them, then it makes sense that you will enjoy them sexually later on. If you find yourself wanting to try this, just look online and find out what is going on in your local plushie community.

Sharing is Caring

If you find yourself interested in plush toys, don’t worry. You’re not a freak and there’s nothing wrong with you. No fetish is too freaky and there are always people to connect with on any sexual interest. If you need to talk about this fetish with a partner then you can simply bring it up in a playful manner to gauge their interest. If you can’t find anyone who will play with you, try a professional fetish provider as a gateway, or maybe look online for a local plushy group. There are definitely people around who will love to explore your fetish with you. Often you may just have to work at it a bit to find them but when you enjoy something sexual that is not one of the more popular sexual interests, the thrill of hunting others to play with is always part of the adventure.

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Nose Fetish

“Any nose, may ravage with impunity a rose.”

-Robert Browning

Definition

Some people find something about the nose so alluring that they just cannot leave it alone during sex. It is an appendage on the face that some feel has other uses besides serving as the olfactory center of the body and helping to get air into the lungs. To some, it’s another appendage, like a cock or finger, that can help to get pleasure, and to others it’s something else that adds a whole new flavor to their BDSM activities since it is a very sensitive area of the body to torment with clips, clamps or simply fingers. Plus, exploring the nose usually makes people feel very exposed and vulnerable which is another plus to BDSM tops.

Nasal Fantasies

Another alternative way to play out a nasal fantasy is to have it be part of an elaborate fairytale like Pinocchio, in which the puppet’s nose grows longer every time he tells a lie. Perhaps you dream of having a nose so long it can be used like a cock! Others enjoy wearing the nose of lesser beings, like the ones who roll around in the mud, or others who howl at the moon. Wearing these noses pushes home the humiliation and degradation they crave, and they also enjoy the objectification that comes along with this idea.

The Nose Knows

The nose is a mucus membrane which means that is sensitive and can get easily irritated and infiltrated with germs and stuff that will make a person sick. If you are using things inside or on the nose, make sure to wash your hands and also be aware of a person’s STI status. It would be rare for something to be transmitted through boogers but it could be possible, so it’s always better to know.

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Menophilia

“At her first bleeding a woman meets her power. During her bleeding years she practices it. At menopause she becomes it.”

-Native American Saying

Definition

Menophilia is for people who really like women when they are menstruating. They realize that this is a special time and a powerful time for a woman. Society has women believing that their periods are more of a problem than a benefit, when they are actually incredible because they are what enable a woman to create life with her pussy. However, for those who appreciate a female period, they don’t mind going down on a girl when there might be a little bit of a rust belt situation, or fucking her when there is a flow of the red stuff.

Why People Like It

For some people it’s just that it’s more of a taboo thing, and taboo things make them turned on. Others are simply down for the cause that women should get pleasure whenever they want, and not just when they are not on their periods. Women like it because sex on the period can help with some of the symptoms like cramps and emotional turmoil caused by hormonal fluctuations. Getting laid on your period also just feels good since everything is pretty lubed up with the extra fluids that are constantly coming out.

Are You a Vampire?

Some with a vampire fetish also enjoy period sex because it makes them feel closer to the substance they so desire, though it doesn’t actually fit into the mold of the vampire who bites and sucks from the bite marks. However, for a vampire freak, licking the pussy of a fertile slut who is menstruating can be a close second to the more traditional bite. If you want to try pussy sex with a menstruating girl, just ask! She will probably be thrilled that you are interested in doing such a thing, as sex can often also help to alleviate her cramps. Go ahead and try it, she will thank you… period!

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Mechanophilia

“When a man opens a car door for his wife, it’s either a new car or a new wife.”

-Prince Philip

Definition

Mechanophilia is a fetish involving someone really likes their car or other machines to such a strong degree that they begin to sexualize them in their minds. It could be items as big as airplanes, or something like a fictional robot, though soon sex robots may come to life in the present, finally bringing the fantasy of mechanophilia into reality for many! In some places, this fetish is considered a crime so if you feel like sticking your dick into a crevice of your car, make sure you know your local laws beforehand. There are many ways to achieve this fetish in a safe and fun manner, though other methods are not so safe at all.

Trying It

If you want to try mechanophilia, just take your mechanical date to a secluded location and try sticking your dick in it or rubbing your pussy against it. Never put your dick into any of the actual mechanics under the hood, or into the gas tank hole, as both of those areas have increased risk for burns, damaging your car and getting stuck inside moving parts that might shift during your escapades. Also make sure that no one will happen upon you, so do it in a place like your closed garage, because getting sexual in public this way is a sure way to get arrested at some point!

Why People Like It

Why do people like blowjobs or anal or any other form of sex? Just because a freaky sex act is less common doesn’t make it less normal. Automakers constantly try to anthropomorphize their machines to seem more human. Often designing headlights to feel like eyes, and a grill to seem like an open mouth visually. Their appeals to modern standards of beauty are never done by accident. Plus, cars and machines never get tired, and if you’re talking about fucking machines, they can go on forever until the power gets turned off!

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Dendrophilia

“Love the trees until their leaves fall off.”

-Chad Sugg

Definition

Dendrophilia is a fetish where you love trees so much that you would do just about anything to get with one, taking the term tree hugger to a whole new level. The people who love trees this much enjoy getting sexy with them, and they may either rub their genitals on tree bark, masturbate in the forest or carve phallic objects out of wood. The fetish makes sense because trees are ancient symbol of fertility, and some think they are a motif that may have been passed down psychologically to all of us.

Wild Nature

When you think about how disconnected we are from nature in our modern lives and how wild trees and nature seems, it makes a lot of sense why a few people would find that trees are incredibly arousing. Some might argue that their subconscious wants to go back to the days when we would wander around in the pristine woods and hunt, and live a more simple life. Others simply say that there is a fetish for everything and anything, and that this fetish simply exists because it can!

Tree Safety

When it comes to trees, you had better be safe. In the UK a few years back a 21 year old guy got kicked out of a park for life when he decided to have sex with a tree in sight of others. You had better not do that because no matter what you are fucking, people do not want to see it in public! In addition, if you are going to fuck a hole in a tree, take a peek inside with a flashlight to make sure that there is nothing in there that is going to bite you or scratch you. That would be a hard injury to explain.

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Tranny Chaser

“All men are liars, said Roberta Muldoon, who knew this was true because she had once been a man.”

-John Irving

Definition

A tranny chaser is a guy or girl who really likes to date trans people. Some trans people think this is a bad thing, but other trannies don’t even care and they are appreciative that there are people who appreciate them so much. Most usually the term refers to a guy who is generally straight who really likes trans women, especially ones who still have their cocks and have not undergone gender reassignment surgery. However, there can also be women who prefer to date trans men, though they are not always referred to as tranny chasers, since that refers to a certain set of activities for the most part.

Be Respectful

If you find that you do have a fetish for transgender women, the important thing to remember is that trans people are not a fetish – they are people just like you and me and they deserve to be treated with respect. Even if it titillates you to see what goes on under their skirt, it’s really not polite to ask about the state of a trans cock or pussy, and it’s also not good to ask about their life before they decided to transition into becoming a woman. Some trannies abhor tranny chasers, but others don’t mind. The best way to find ones who will like you is to go on websites that are specifically for those who enjoy it.

Gay or Straight

Tranny chasers are not gay or even bisexual really; they are really straight guys who love women so much that they don’t care whether or not they have a cock or a pussy. Perhaps they would have been gay but they have been socialized to think that being gay is bad, or maybe they love their own cock so much they think that the perfect woman would have a dick just like them. Whatever the reason, loving trannies doesn’t make you gay, unless you consider yourself to be of that persuasion!

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Suspension Bondage

“Weightlessness was wonderful, and I was surprised at how natural it felt.”

-Ron Garan

Definition

Suspension bondage is a specific type of bondage, usually in the style of the Japanese art of Shibari that involves having the restraints hold a person’s whole weight. Either a pulley or a system of one sort or another is used to lift a person off the ground while they are tied up. The bondage can be complete – meaning the person’s limbs are bound and they are helpless, or they can simply be tied up with a harness that hoists them off the ground but they are free to move and explore their new position in the world.

Partial Vs. Full

There is also something called partial suspension, when a submissive may have one leg on the ground, but they are lifted up high so that their toes just graze the floor. They can use their leg to stabilize a bit, but for the most part, they are a bit off balance. The same can also be done for the knees. If you balance a person on their knees, then they will be a bit off balance, but as the ropes mostly hold them up, they won’t fall over! Full suspension is what you probably think of as suspension when the person has nothing on the ground at all.

Myth Vs. Reality

A lot of times in movies and TV shows you will see people suspended from their wrists. However, you should know that is a very difficult and unrealistic position and even being in that position for a short amount of time can cause damage to the wrists. More usual suspension positions are a secure hogtie where the arms are bound to the body in a box tie, and inverted suspension, which uses special cuffs to suspend someone upside down by the feet.

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Hanky Code

“I’d rather break stones on the king’s highway than hem a handkerchief.”

-Anne Sullivan

Definition

Hanky Code is a special code devised by freaky people and used to tell other kinksters what they are into without even talking to them. Clearly this code was developed before the Internet was around as the primary way people could interact without talking. People would put different colored hankies in their pockets depending on what their tastes are. Each color means a different thing, and whether you would put it on the left or right side of your pants would mean you are a top or bottom for that topic. It is popular in both the BDSM community and the gay sex community.

Practical Examples

Left usually denotes that the person is a top and right usually means that the person is a bottom. Some sources have varying colors but according to most, the basic codes are all the same. When you get into complex shades things can get a little bit dicey, but here are some basic ones that anyone can use. If you are wearing a black hanky it means you are into heavy S&M and if you wear it on the left or right tells people whether you are the Dom or sub. Other popular colors include red, which means fisting and light blue, which means blowjobs.

Variations

If you wear your hanky tied to your middle belt loop then you can let everyone know that you are basically a switch or a versatile player. If you don’t have pants that have pockets you can also wear a hanky tied around your wrist or your ankle. You can even wear it attached to a keychain or something like that if you don’t want to commit to wearing it at all times. People can even wear it as a fashionable neckerchief with the tie going towards the left or right depending on what signal they want to give off. The key thing to remember is that you are sending signals whether you intend to or not, and learning the right ways to declare your sexually silently can help you avoid a lot of awkward situations.

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