Painal

Sex without pain is like food without taste”

– Marquis de Sade

Definition

Painal is a specific kind of anal sex that focuses on the enjoyment of only one of the participants. Rather than shared orgasms and mutual affection, Painal usually features a willing bottom who is attempting to be anally penetrated for the very first time, often without any kind of lube, while in front of the cameras at a hardcore sex studio or while being recorded by a smooth talking boyfriend.

Proper Use of Pain During Anal Sex

The word Painal comes from the two root terms Pain and Anal combined into a new distinctive label. While novices might assume pain is somehow a bad thing, masochists and porn provocateurs are well aware that pain can also be far more positive when applied to the correct degree and in the proper setting.

For example, many submissive bottoms have expressed a desire to feel the full length of their partner’s cock penetrating their asshole, and believe that lube or stretching exercises with butt-plugs or other gaping devices would diminish their anal sensitivity to the glorious moment when he begins thrusting balls-deep into her asshole for the very first time. The sensation of pain emanating from every wrinkle of her rectum as she is stretched open from ass to colon awakens her inner self and focuses all of her attention on the physical, emotional and spiritual components of hardcore anal sex in ways that a lubed up and stretched out anal experience simply never would be able to match.

Painal Safe Words

As with all other forms of consensual pain play, establishing a simple monosyllabic safe word that is easy to remember, and a physical cue that can be used if speaking is inhibited by a ball gag or choke, is essential to high quality Painal sex. When watching Freaky Painal Sex Videos, always keep in mind that the participants both want to be there. One to aggressively fuck a girl in the ass until she is raw and obedient, the other to receive painful anal sex as part of her journey toward sexual enlightenment with an ‘ass-first’ approach to demonstrating her love of her Dominant male partner. Protecting the sanctity of consensual Painal sex is as simple as having a safe word that either participant can use to immediately end the session and pause physical contact until a particular matter is resolved or addressed fully during the intermission.

Alternative Painal Sex

In most cases Painal sex is a term used to describe first time anal sex between a man and his submissive female partner. However, lesbian Painal is becoming more popular recently, with many dykes starting to explore the adventurous aspects of anally punishing their partners with strap-ons, dildos, and other foreign objects being inserted for a purpose similar to the standard Painal sex of straight couples. Note, Painal should not be confused with anal fisting. Anal fisting is about gaining full access to her anal cavity with an entire fist, and while fists can be used as part of a Painal sex session, during Painal sex the goal is to cause anal pain during penetration whether it be done via fist, cock, dildo or the back end of an office stapler.

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Dungeon

“Fear can be a potent aphrodisiac.”

-Kele Moon

Definition

A dungeon is more than a place that was developed in the Middle Ages for torments to take place. It has become a modern place for consensual torments as well. It’s where kinky couples store their bondage equipment, and there are also public play spaces that bill themselves as dungeons too. A modern dungeon doesn’t have to be a dark, dank basement as the traditional ones were. Pretty much any room is game for dungeon material. With the right lighting, accessories and accouterments, and furniture, a dungeon could be well on its way.

Furniture

The reason why many people need to have dungeons if they are kinky is because some bondage furniture doesn’t blend well into the natural environment of the home. The most popular pieces of dungeon equipment include larger pieces like the St. Andrew’s Cross. This is an x shaped frame that makes it easy to bind people to in a standing position. There are also large spanking benches, bondage cages and massage tables with strategically places bondage points that may look out of place in the living room when the in-laws come to visit.

Public Play Spaces

Most large cities have at least one public dungeon, which serves as a space where almost anyone can come and play. When you go to one of these places, you should read up on the rules as they often have different policies as to who can play and when, or the rules of engagement with strangers. You should also read up on their policies for cleanliness to make sure you don’t break any boundaries and offend anyone. If you live in a place with a lot of kinky people, there may also be dungeon spaces that can be rented out for a fee, by the room, by the hour. These are great spaces to get experience with more advanced equipment before you decide to shell out the capital to install them in your own home.

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Corporal Punishment

“I doubt whether classical education ever has been, or can be, successfully carried out without corporal punishment.”

-George Orwell

Definition

Corporal punishment is a real life activity that still goes on sometimes, but in this case, we are talking about the fetish activity that relates to BDSM play. It usually encompasses a rigid method of caning and/or paddling used in role-play scenarios of discipline. The situations are often times naughty college students who need to be punished until bruised on their asses and moaning, or sometimes the tables get turned and it’s the headmaster who needs a good paddling.

Setting the Scene

Before you agree to do corporal punishment play, you should talk seriously with your play partner to make sure everyone is on the same page. You should talk about if you find getting marks on your bum acceptable, so your partner can choose implements and strength that won’t be likely to do so. You should talk about a safe word, so that if the pain should get too intense, the sub can stop things on a dime.

Fantasy Ideas

Don’t relegate your corporal punishment fantasies to be in a college classroom setting. There are many other venues where caning and flogging take place to instill discipline in someone. Fraternities and sororities are another university-based fantasy for corporal punishment, and they even have their own paddles, traditionally. There are also military and police fantasies where high up officers use corporal punishment to teach the lower guys a good lesson. It’s nice to get creative with CP (short for corporal punishment) fantasies because it adds some pep to your bruising and caning routine.

Implements

For your corporal punishment scenes, there are many different types of things you can use. Canes are probably the most harsh but also the most popular implement to be used in CP scenes. They are thin, and usually made of wood, and they leave some serious welts on the ass. The next most popular item are paddles. These can be made of leather or wood, softer with a resounding thud or harder with a sudden sting. Floggers are not quite as popular for this purpose because a higher level of expertise is necessary to accurately tune the level of punishment being administered with each strike.

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Body Worship

“Women are sacred and the woman one loves is holy.”

-Alexander Dumas

Definition

When you are faced with a beautiful woman standing in front of you in a Dominant position, the only thing a submissive can do is beg for the privilege to worship her completely. Higher levels of worship come with emotional and spiritual awareness, but beginners start with the more obvious physical body worship lessons that they need to fully comprehend in a concrete sense first. This includes kissing and licking the most delicate and beautiful parts of a goddess, like her juicy ass, full breasts or when earned, a taste of her wet pussy. Never forget her perfect feet or the boots that adorn them. Body worshipers see their Domme as a Goddess to be feared and adored. Female subs can also worship their Dom or Domme in a similar manner. In many ways, body worship is more about the enthusiasm and reverence of the act, than the body part itself.

Doms Initiate to Make it Happen

If you have been dreaming of body worship but haven’t had the confidence to bring your fantasies to fruition, there are a few things you can do to easily make it all happen. One fun way to bring some BW (as it is sometimes known) into your life is to put some emotional distance between yourself and your sub. More than a vocal instruction, a sub must feel the sense of loss and despair that comes from withdrawal and disconnection in order to relish your presence properly when you return. Only when a sub is sure that their connection to you is in jeopardy can they reach deeply enough within their own psyche to give themselves over to you fully with a full comprehension of how lucky they are to be afforded the gift of your attention.

Full Time Power Exchange Vs. Part Time Roleplay

Novices like body worship because there is a clear distinction of power. Sure, a guy might want to grab a girl’s ass, but if he is submissive, the act of worship and the necessity of permission heighten the sexual satisfaction tremendously. However, when a couple moves beyond part time roleplay toward full time power exchange, body worship can take on a whole new level of arousal. Many full time submissives perform housework, complete chore lists, accept commands without question and show their appreciation by constantly caring for the body of their Dom as the true vessel of an enlightened soul. Preferring to be used as a coffee table to prevent his drink from ever spilling, serving as a better footrest than any cold leather ottoman. Washing their Dom without request and helping him rest as each day of servitude blissfully leads to the next.

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BDSM

“In order to know virtue, we must first acquaint ourselves with vice.”

-Marquis de Sade

Definition

BDSM Stands for Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism. Technically it could be called BDDSSM, but people shortened it because they thought it was too repetitive. It is a huge umbrella with many activities that fall under it, including tying people up, corporal punishment, submissive training and people who live the lifestyle 24/7. The list of activities is purely endless. If you’re thinking about trying anything that could be considered BDSM, then you should do some research because it’s likely that there are other aspects of this kinky stuff that would interest you too.

History

While the term BDSM didn’t come around until the 1960s, people have been getting their freak on in this way for a long, long, long, time. In many different ancient texts there are stories of flagellation (whipping) for sexual pleasure as well as to worship goddesses. Even the Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian text that was a guide to fulfilling sex, had suggestions for how to hit people during sex to make it more enjoyable. Now it is estimated that anywhere from 5-10% of people enjoy doing some form of BDSM in their personal lives.

How to Get Started

When you’re thinking of trying BDSM there are many ways to meet people. It helps if you live in a major metropolitan area because you can go to munches, which are meetings between kinky people of the area. Sometimes these meetings have a theme – like FemDom – but mostly they are for anyone. Cities also often have groups that hold play parties – this is an event where almost anything that is safe and legal can happen, and it’s also a great way to meet people. However, some people are too shy to make their first entry to the scene at a party, which is why munches are nice. There is also a wealth of information online, so if you don’t feel like getting freaky in a group, then just turn to your good friend the search engine and search away!

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ATM

“If it is the dirty element that gives pleasure to the act of lust, then the dirtier it is, the more pleasurable it is bound to be.”

-Marquis de Sade

Definition

Ass to Mouth is a sex act that is often considered to be dirty, yet fun. It is the act of giving your guy a blowjob directly after he has stuck his dick inside of your ass. This can also be done with a strap on dildo between lesbians or with a lady who likes to peg her man! Some people love the feeling and taste of ass, after their booty has been pounded. Most people who try ass to mouth do the majority of the cock licking after the guy has spewed the jizz, as the combination of anal flavors and jizz can be quite alluring for those into this naughty act.

Why do People Like It?

When most people hear of licking ass juice for the first time, they may squint their eyes with disbelief, however, once you understand the appeal, it’s quite clear why ATM (the abbreviation for ass to mouth), is a popular thing to do. Many open-minded players get off even harder knowing that something is dirty, not in the physical sense, but in the philosophical sense. The more taboo, the sexier the act. Just knowing that anal juice licking is something out of the ordinary that only some freaky people do is enough to make some people cream themselves.

ATM Safety & Hygiene

There are lots of rumors flying around the web as to the safety of ass to mouth. When it is done properly you may be surprised to learn that ATM can be done safely. The key is to be clean, which includes pre-play enemas, washing, and dietary influence. What could be safer than tasting your own booty juices? Doing it in a way where your anal cavity is completely clean and ready. When tasting someone else’s ass, you should take the same precautions you would with sexual partners, like getting tested before doing it so you know each other’s status. You may also be surprised to learn that many times, depending on the person, the phallus comes out of the ass completely clean, so it’s more the essence of booty that you’re tasting than actual chunks of matter. Also be sure to practice proper oral hygiene before and after any ass to mouth sex.

Domination & Submission

The main reason people like ATM is that the partner doing the licking gets to feel submissive, and the one giving it feels Dominant. It is often part of BDSM play or rough sex in the bedroom. If you’ve been experimenting with those types of sex, it could very well be time to introduce the idea of ass to mouth. It’s fun, it’s dirty and it gives you a sexy rush of doing something that sounds so taboo, but it’s a normal sex act performed by many on a regular basis. If you enjoy analingus, ass to mouth is the next logical step!

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