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Zelophilia

Posted on October 16, 2020 | by freakz

“The past is gone but something might be found
To take its place…hey jealousy”
-Gin Blossoms

Definition

Zelophilia is sexual arousal from feeling jealous. Jealousy is known as a love killer because it is considered a negative emotion. But someone with a zelophilia fetish gets aroused when they get jealous. Some might think that this means they are not getting jealous, but this is not true. The person is indeed having intense feelings of jealousy but instead of that coming out in anger it comes out as sexual arousal.

Zelophilia In A Relationship

Jealousy can be a very powerful emotion. There are countless books, movies and TV shows that have a storyline of someone getting jealous and then lashing out. A person who is aroused by jealousy might be interested in engaging in roleplaying with their partner, with situations where the partner flirts with other people until they feel jealous and then they have a rendezvous together.

Tread Lightly with Jealousy

The previously described roleplay is an example of a healthy outcome when engaging with zelophilia. An unhealthy outcome could result in first lashing out angrily before pursuing sex or, in the worst case scenario, lashing out and pursuing non-consensual sex. Zelophilia can be a potentially dangerous fetish. For people who have a hard time keeping a healthy balance it can be treated with therapy. As long as the zelophiliac can keep a healthy balance with their jealousy and arousal, this can be a fun way to roleplay and keep things fresh with their partners.

Xylophilia

Posted on October 16, 2020 | by freakz

“You fill up my senses like a night in the forest”
-John Denver

Definition

Xylophilia is a sexual attraction to the woods. Wood has been used to reference male erect genitalia forever, but in this case xylophilia is not referring to a hard penis, it is literally an attraction to wood and the woods. Much like other fetishes where someone is attracted to an object or substance, the nuances differ but the response is the same. Someone who is a xylophiliac might have a sexual attraction to a pile of lumber or to a tree, or only one and not the other. It does typically refer to wood in its more raw form rather than a piece of wooden furniture.

Got Wood?

“Wood” is a well-known synonym for an erect penis. But f you look at some of the jokes or references, maybe they were referencing both a hard penis and a hard piece of wood. What did the princess say when she sat on Pinnochio’s face? “Lie to me!” That joke is clearly referencing a girl who really likes some wood…

Safety

A xylophiliac may have a sexual attraction to wood, but that doesn’t always mean that they are sexually active with wood. If you find yourself interested in sexual activities with wood, make sure that you are using pieces that have been very well sanded, or start with a store-bought wooden dildo or wood butt plug. Though there is little danger with using wood as a sexual tool, the one main risk is splinters. Also remember that wood is porous, so you will either want to wrap it in a condom or make sure that you are using a piece of wood that has been very well sealed. The issue with wood being porous is that it is impossible to clean thoroughly and that could lead to potential infection.

Yiffing

Posted on October 16, 2020 | by freakz

“Feel your ice is thinning
Like a frozen pond in spring
Your furry melting thing awaits me”
-Prince

Definition

Yiffing refers to sex between two members of the furry community. It comes from the sound that arctic foxes make when they are mating. However, it can also refer to affectionate or other kinds of sexual and non-sexual contact between furries.

Yiff!

Yiffing is an onomatopoetic word. If you are a furry, it is a sound you can make to express sexual interest. It can be used in the form of a noise that sounds like saying yiff or actually saying yiff in speech, such as “Are they yiffing?”

Furry Fun

A lot of furry activities are related to animalistic behavior. They have specific terms and behaviors that are used in the community that are related to the animal world, such as puppy piles, which is a big cuddle pile that can sometimes lead to orgies. Furries have a lot of interactions that are similar to animals, such as rubbing noses, sniffing, and animal play (puppy play, pony play, etc). Typically if furries are yiffing, they are having sex and still wearing their fursuits, otherwise it would just be sex.

Yeastiality

Posted on October 16, 2020 | by freakz

“The heat of the bread burned into my skin, but I clutched it tighter, clinging to life.”
-Suzanne Collins, The Hunger Games

Definition

Yeastiality is a sexual attraction for leavened culinary items such as bread, cakes, pastry, and dough. Pretty much everyone loves bread, especially fresh baked bread. But someone with a yeastiality fetish loves bread way more than that average connoisseur. They get aroused by the smell of it baking. They sexualize the feeling of the dough and breaking open the bread or cake. The arousal often extends to a desire to have sex with the baked good.

The Infamous Apple Pie

The movie “American Pie” brought yeastiality to the forefront with its very famous scene where the main character, Jason Biggs, is told that having sex with an apple pie is a lot like having sex with a woman. In the scene he first tries penetrating the pie with his fingers and after he decides he likes the feeling, the next obvious step is to penetrate it with his penis. It is at this moment his father walks in and sees him having sexual intercourse with the pie. Though it was a big joke in the movie, this opened up a whole new world for a lot of people with a yeastiality fetish.

Safety

For the most part yeastiality is not a big safety hazard. But like any sexual activity involving food you want to make sure that the food cannot stay inside the body, because if it does it can cause infection. If you are penetrating yourself with bread or cake, you will want to make sure it is wrapped in latex so you can’t leave crumbs inside you.

Xeronisus

Posted on October 16, 2020 | by freakz

“My right hand’s in my pocket and the other one is giving a high five.”
-Alanis Morrisette

Definition

Xeronisus refers to a person who cannot reach orgasm by any method. A more common term used nowadays is anorgasmic. Someone suffering from xeronisus can’t orgasm. They cannot get there through masturbation or partnered sexual activity. This condition is incredibly frustrating to the person suffering as well as for their partners. They are able to feel sexual pleasure but there is no release, which can also cause added frustration. Sadly, this is a common problem for women.

Where is the O?

There can be many reasons someone might have xeronisus ranging from physical health issues, to emotional intimacy issues, trauma, partner intimacy, body image, cultural shame, and religious sexual inhibition. This is such a common issue in women that it is a common theme in movies and TV shows. Every other issue of women’s magazines is telling you how to find the big O. There are articles, courses, podcasts, meditations, and support groups all to help women find their orgasm.

The Sad O

Having xeronisus does more than just keep you from feeling sexual release. It can cause psychological problems of feeling unworthy, unsexy, unattractive. It often leaves the person feeling like there is something wrong with them. It can lead to body image issues, sexual issues, and depression. For partners of people with xeronisus, it can cause feelings of inadequacy and disconnection. One of the hardest parts of dealing with xeronisus is that it often leaves people feeling disconnected from intimacy.

Bidetonism

Posted on October 2, 2020 | by freakz

“Low flow [shower heads]? I don’t like the sound of that.”
-Kramer, Seinfeld

Definition

Bidetonism is using the water spray from a bidet or showerhead to masturbate. This is typically done by women, though some men can also masturbate this way. The bidet is a receptacle similar to a toilet bowl, with a stream of water that is used to clean the genitals after using the restroom. It was likely not long before an ancient woman squatted over a bidet to clean herself and found herself squatting for a lot longer than necessary. It would be easy to realise that the flow of water did more than clean… it provided pleasure!

Getting Shower Head

As our bathing technology improved, the bidet fell away as a standard feature in bathrooms, but showerheads took their place in the pleasure department. Women realized that by changing the angle of the showerhead they could direct the spray to their vulva and bring themselves to orgasm. Though it was not a woman that invented the removable showerhead, it likely should have been. It’s not only helpful with precisely washing your hair and body, but it also provides precise stimulation to the clit. With the advances in shower wands and the addition of different strength levels and spray patterns, the shower wand became many women’s best bath-time buddy.

A Clean Fetish

Many women use a water spray to find pleasure, but some of them actually need water stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm. Though for some it might be the literal water (as can happen with albutophilia or ablutolagnia), for others it is because of the particular intense and direct stimulation that is difficult to achieve without water.

Coitobalnism

Posted on October 2, 2020 | by freakz

“Have you ever heard a blindfolded octopus unwrap a cellophane-covered bathtub?”
-Norton Juster, The Phantom Tollbooth

Defintion

Coitobalnism is the fetish of having sex in a bathtub. It could be considered part of the aquaphilia fetish and ablutolagnia, which is sexual pleasure from water, but it can also be distinct. What makes coitobalnism different is that it is location-based instead of element-based. A person who is into coitobalnism can be aroused at having sex in a bathtub with or without water.

Bathing in Sexiness

There is something about a bathtub that just says luxury, relaxation, sensuality. Bathtubs always relate to taking a moment to yourself in a self-care decadent way. Though the bathtub fetish often involves the tub being filled with water, that is not, in fact, necessary. Even empty, a bathtub creates an intimate and contained space. Ultimately sex and pleasure in bathtubs is mostly about intimacy.

Bathtub Intimacy in Movies

The bathtub has been featured in countless movies to depict moments of sensuality, intimacy, or violation of intimacy. American Beauty featured Kevin Spacey and his fantasy girl in a bathtub full of roses in a cinematic moment that showed her coming out of innocence and into womanhood. Nightmare on Elm Street took the intimate moment in a different direction with the scene where Freddy Krueger’s hand comes up out of the water between a girl’s legs. In Pleasantville, the bathtub is where the 1950s mom Betty discovers her sexuality, in a masturbation scene that brings color to the black-and-white neighborhood. In Splash, Madison the mermaid rolls out her tail in the bath as she momentarily returns to her true self. The themes showcased are quite similar – bathtub scenes are about intimate moments, whether they are being savored or ruined.

Grayromantic

Posted on September 25, 2020 | by freakz

“We tend to associate gray with what is boring, but there are a thousand kinds of gray, and when combined with colors its varieties are endless”
-Krisztina Fehérváry

Definition

A grayromantic person is someone on the Aromantic scale that instead of being entirely aromantic experiences infrequent romantic attraction. This can also mean experiencing romantic attraction weakly, or feeling it but not wanting to act upon it. It can be a feeling of being alienated from romance or romance in very specific circumstances. It can also mean having difficulty identifying romantic attraction and how to delineate between romantic and non-romantic attraction, which can leave them feeling confused if they experienced romantic attraction at all.

Squishy Crushes

A grayromantic person can fall anywhere on the aromantic spectrum; from being interested in romance to being romance averse. Often times they experience squishes, where they have a strong desire to have a platonic relationship with someone. The relationship might then enter into ambiguous territory because a desire to romantically cuddle (or more) starts developing. Such cases typically mean that the Grayro person is OK with having a romantic relationship with the person or just staying friends. This is also known as an alterous attraction. The fluidity of Grayro can be confusing to some people, but grayromantic people tend to find comfort when they realize other people experience ambiguous attraction as well.

Grayromantic As An Umbrella Term

For some grayromantic people and others in the Aro community, Grayromantic is considered an umbrella term for many orientations between Alloromantic and Aromantic on the Aro spectrum. Some of these orientations are Akoiromantic (formerly known as Lithromantic), for people that experience romantic attraction without wanting it to be reciprocated, and Demiromantics that only experience romantic attraction after a close bond has been formed. In the same vein, the Recipromantic and WTFromantic orientations also belong under the Grayromantic umbrella.

Analgasm

Posted on September 25, 2020 | by freakz

“The ass is the face of the soul of sex.”
-Charles Bukowski

Definition

An analgasm is an orgasm that happens from anal sex. People of any gender and anatomy can have an anal orgasm, even if they don’t have a prostate. For men with a prostate, an analgasm can also be an orgasm caused by anal stimulation that does not involve ejaculation.

Anal Orgasm Myths

Myth 1: Anal orgasms mean prostate orgasms. Sometimes they are the same, but both men and women can have anal orgasms just from anal stimulation, without prostate stimulation.
Myth 2: Only men can have anal orgasms. Not true. Women can have mind-blowing anal orgasms as well.
Myth 3: Only a penis can give an anal orgasm. Anyone can give anal orgasms through finger stimulation, using a dildo, or pegging (using a strap on).

Anatomy of an Analgasm

Our bodies are filled with erogenous zones and sensitive areas. With proper stimulation and some patience, it is possible to get an orgasm from just erogenous zone stimulation. Stimulating the genitals while also stimulating the butt can lead to some pretty mind-blowing orgasms. Some people find anal sex a combination between pain and pleasure, which can also lead to more intense full body orgasms.

Anal Sex

Posted on September 25, 2020 | by freakz

“Let’s do anal sex so my pussy can rest. Let’s do anal sex so that you can tell your ex.”
-Only Fire

Definition

Anal sex is sexual penetration that involves the anus, aka the butt. This does not have to be penis in butt. It can be a dildo or a strap-on in the butt. It can also be a finger, fist, or any other item that is used to penetrate the anus.

Bad Reputation

Anal sex has an unfairly bad reputation with a lot of folks. Some people think that anal sex is only meant for sex between men. They think it is dirty. They think it is taboo. They think it is hard to do. But the truth is anal sex is just another wonderful way to engage in a fun sexual activity. Anyone of any gender can enjoy anal, and if you are a man that enjoys your girlfriend’s fingers or toys in your ass, that doesn’t make you gay at all! It can also be a clean activity as long as you follow some basic prep beforehand.

How to Have Anal Sex

First of all, any kind of anal penetration can count as anal sex. So you don’t have to jump into penis in the butt right away. Honestly, it is better to start your journey into the behind with something smaller, like a finger. Also, keep in mind that not everyone likes anal sex. A lot of people are surprised to learn that their bum hole was a lot more sensitive than they realized. But there are also a lot of people that discover that they don’t like it, and this can be both men and women. The idea that all men like to receive anal sex or anal stimulation is not true. There are many men who do like it and there are many men who don’t. Don’t judge yourself or anyone too harshly for their preferences. When learning how to have anal sex, we suggest doing some research. There are a lot of great guides online that will go into detail on the best ways to have enjoyable anal sex.

Quick & Dirty Tips

Go to the bathroom first. You don’t want to have an accident or feel insecure about that possibility during the action. It’s not necessary and it’s not advisable to do too frequently, but you can also try an enema to feel more confident about your cleanliness back there.
Start small. Start with a finger, then as your body adjusts to that size, increase the girth by adding more fingers until you are able to take the size of the object you ultimately want. Just understand that this might not happen all in the same session. This process is called anal training.
Lube, lube and more lube. If you know one thing it should be this! You need to use lots and lots of lube when having anal sex. The anus does not self-lubricate. If you want to get something in there, you better lube up.
Communicate. Make sure to let your partner know if something hurts, or if they are pushing too hard or fast. Only you know your body. If you don’t communicate your limits you might not only dislike the experience but you may also hurt yourself.