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“I’ve decided I am going to start loving my backside because I don’t know anyone who does that.”

-Kate Winslet

Definition

Some people like anal sex. What’s not to like? The anus has many nerve endings that can create a deeply satisfying sexual experience as long as enough lubrication is used. However, many people take anal to the extreme, and these people are known as anal training fetishists. In the beginning with anal sex, recipients often find they need to “train” their assholes and work up toward being able to take something the size of a cock inside. Once they are able to get a dick balls-deep in their ass they consider their training complete. Freaks on the other hand see that as just a start! Training their assholes to be able to take bigger and bigger things until they can accommodate some very impressive objects.

How To Train Your Asshole

If you want to try anal training, you should do some research online. You will find that the asshole is an amazing orifice, which can stretch even wider than the pussy. Some people resort to wearing larger and larger plugs all throughout the day, and others are into BDSM so their dominants put them into chastity belts that help them keep big plugs in their buttholes for a number of hours. The main thing when doing this is to listen to your body and go slowly. Anal Training is about the long game, so keep your eyes on the prize and resist the urge to go too big too quickly or you may end up tearing yourself a new one!

Backdoor Safety

While the anus is surprisingly durable, it can also be quite fickle and delicate. You can never use too much lube when it comes to huge anal insertions, and you need to be careful or prolapse, which can happen easily when the asshole has been used too much. Anal prolapse is a medical condition that often needs to be treated with surgery if it keeps happening too often. Remember; only use toys that have a flared base for butt hole spelunking, because those items will not get lost inside of your booty and nobody wants to be digging around in her colon for a lost keepsake when your greedy asshole gobbles it up completely.

“It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important.”

-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Definition

Aftercare is something that many deem necessary in the BDSM world. This is because both Doms and subs can experience what is known as either Domdrop or subdrop after a scene, no matter how intense, and a good amount of aftercare can be good for everyone involved. Aftercare simply means taking care of a person’s emotional and physical needs after playing, and though it is typically the Dom giving aftercare to the sub, it can go both ways.

How to Administer

The type of aftercare to give really depends on the scene in particular and what the person needs. If it was a scene with a lot of impact play or corporal punishment, then the Dominant person might put a healing oil or salve on the sub’s marks and bruises. If it was a more psychological scene then simply cuddling and offering verbal reassurance could be of great help to both people involved in a scene. It’s a good idea to simply ask the person what they need, because otherwise it can become a bit hard to tell.

The Biology of it All

The reason why some people experience drops in energy and happiness after a BDSM scene is because during play, especially pain play, the body releases hormones known as endorphins. These hormones make the body and mind feel good – almost like the person is on a high, and after a scene the body lacks endorphins, causing the person to drop into a low energy state or even a mild depression. Aftercare helps to soften the biological blow of all the hormone depletion in the body, and makes for sweet and fun memories after challenging BDSM scenes.

It’s Not for All

Some people claim to not feel any difference in happiness or energy after playing in BDSM scenes, and that’s OK. These people often don’t want any after care and it would be wrong to make them get some if they don’t want it. Listen to what your play partner is telling you and you’ll be fine. Others might have unconventional forms of aftercare like eating a special treat or watching a TV show. The most important thing for the person giving aftercare is to listen to what the person receiving the care desires. If your sub wants you to throw her some loose change as she gathers her clothes off the floor and hurries out of your apartment in search of a Taxi, that’s perfectly appropriate. However, if she wants a hug and needs to be told you care about her after hours of gagging on your cock while she had a fist in her ass, be a gentleman and give her the hug she desires.

“If it is the dirty element that gives pleasure to the act of lust, then the dirtier it is, the more pleasurable it is bound to be.”

-Marquis de Sade

Definition

Ass to Mouth is a sex act that is often considered to be dirty, yet fun. It is the act of giving your guy a blowjob directly after he has stuck his dick inside of your ass. This can also be done with a strap on dildo between lesbians or with a lady who likes to peg her man! Some people love the feeling and taste of ass, after their booty has been pounded. Most people who try ass to mouth do the majority of the cock licking after the guy has spewed the jizz, as the combination of anal flavors and jizz can be quite alluring for those into this naughty act.

Why do People Like It?

When most people hear of licking ass juice for the first time, they may squint their eyes with disbelief, however, once you understand the appeal, it’s quite clear why ATM (the abbreviation for ass to mouth), is a popular thing to do. Many open-minded players get off even harder knowing that something is dirty, not in the physical sense, but in the philosophical sense. The more taboo, the sexier the act. Just knowing that anal juice licking is something out of the ordinary that only some freaky people do is enough to make some people cream themselves.

ATM Safety & Hygiene

There are lots of rumors flying around the web as to the safety of ass to mouth. When it is done properly you may be surprised to learn that ATM can be done safely. The key is to be clean, which includes pre-play enemas, washing, and dietary influence. What could be safer than tasting your own booty juices? Doing it in a way where your anal cavity is completely clean and ready. When tasting someone else’s ass, you should take the same precautions you would with sexual partners, like getting tested before doing it so you know each other’s status. You may also be surprised to learn that many times, depending on the person, the phallus comes out of the ass completely clean, so it’s more the essence of booty that you’re tasting than actual chunks of matter. Also be sure to practice proper oral hygiene before and after any ass to mouth sex.

Domination & Submission

The main reason people like ATM is that the partner doing the licking gets to feel submissive, and the one giving it feels Dominant. It is often part of BDSM play or rough sex in the bedroom. If you’ve been experimenting with those types of sex, it could very well be time to introduce the idea of ass to mouth. It’s fun, it’s dirty and it gives you a sexy rush of doing something that sounds so taboo, but it’s a normal sex act performed by many on a regular basis. If you enjoy analingus, ass to mouth is the next logical step!