Category: P

“Well, don’t let your thighs rub too close together, because you look like you’re about to have a walking orgasm”

-Christine Zolendz

Definition

Psycholagny is the coming together of two different words to create one. You probably have a good idea of what psycho means – it has to do with the mind of course. Lagny means sexual taste. So basically what this whole word means is that you can have an orgasm without physical touch. It is also called a psychic orgasm. Some people come into this world with the natural ability to achieve this, while others have to work hard to develop it. You don’t have to wonder very much why you want to come up with this skill, as it is very useful in getting your orgasmic needs met whenever you want to.

Getting Off Without Being Touched

Orgasms are basically just a series of muscle contractions paired with hot imagery in the brain, so your muscles can definitely be trained to do it on a regular basis. Some people try to make orgasms happen with a word association, and others can train themselves based on thought patterns. Others get aroused when they are simply too anxious or stressed, and still others experience a troubling condition known as persistent genital arousal disorder. Of course the latter two are not preferable because they may result in someone having an orgasm in an embarrassing situation, but the important thing here is that you can be trained to have an orgasm on command or by thought!

BDSM Orgasmic Sensations

BDSM practitioners who love orgasm control are really into the idea of psycholagny. They love to train their subs to only cum when they allow them to, and even to allow it to happen only at the precise moment that they want it to. The sub gets off on cumming on command, and the top has ultimate control of pleasure in their sub. It does take a lot of time and dedication to achieve this goal, but it can be done.

“The heart is capable of sacrifice. So is the vagina.”

-Eve Ensler

Definition

If you are a sadistic partner of a submissive who happens to have a pussy, you are in luck because vaginas are a real joy to torment. There are just so many things you can do to them and they always seem to bounce back. The human vagina is quite a resilient body part, considering its biological function, and there are many ways to make your partner scream in pain and then moan with pleasure in the next breath. This sensitive form of freaky sex play is the female equivalent to a man’s CBT (cock and ball torture).

Methods

There are too many methods for pussy play and torture to list here, but here are a few tried and true methods to simply get you started. Perhaps the most popular way to torture a pussy is to put clamps or clips on her labia and clitoris. There are all sorts of different types of clamps that go on the pussy lips and some super mean Doms focus on the far more sensitive clit. Another way to torment a pussy is to put a burning cream like capsaicin or muscle pain relief cream on it, as a way to make your sub squirm in discomfort. Be careful though because once the material is applied, nothing will stop the substance from running its course.

Pussy Limits

There really aren’t many limits to what a pussy is capable of. A good pussy can be stretched wide open, given multiple orgasms, denied climax, clipped, whipped, clamped or otherwise tormented. However, one thing you should be quite careful of is any contamination from the anus or foreign objects getting near these delicate lady bits. This can cause yeast infections and urinary tract infections, which is a form of pussy torture that no one needs in their life!

“If modesty disappeared, so would exhibitionism.”

-Mason Cooley

Definition

Public sex is any sex act that takes place in a public place where witnesses or spectators may discover the action. Sometimes these are places that sanction public sex like a sex party where everyone is watching, and other times it is a place like a park where the couple involved has sex under a blanket, or the hot action takes place in the secrecy of a restroom. Either way, public sex is usually about exhibitionism, and for some, the risk of getting caught is a big part of the thrill.

First Time Public Sex

When you are just starting out with public sex, it might seem daunting to let it all hang out right away. If you are into purposeful public sex at parties, it might be good to start by simply walking around naked or in your underwear, and watching other couples fucking before you put yourself out of your comfort zone. For public sex it is usually best to start in a secretive location like a closed restroom. This also ensures that no one actually walks in on you accidentally, which can get you into big trouble!

Be Careful

You can actually get arrested if you have sex in a place where it is not supposed to happen, especially if people who aren’t supposed to see what you are doing can see it, so being careful is imperative. You should definitely be as discreet as possible and try to make as little noise as you can. It might sound fun to join the mile high club or to get a blowjob on a hike, but you may shock some unsuspecting passersby and they might not be happy about it. Discretion is key!

“Tomorrow, you might get a phone call about something wonderful.”

-Regina Spektor

Definition

Phone sex is the art of picking up the phone to speak with someone by voice and using nothing beyond your shared imagination and audio interactions to reach orgasms together. Verbally describing everything you wish you could do to that person, in person while mutually masturbating to the sounds and creativity of your partner. Phone sex is perfect for couples that are long distances away from each other – whether permanently or short term, and there are some people who have a special affinity for dirty talk on the phone even if they live close to their favorite freak!

Phone Sex Tips

Newbies to phone sex often worry that they won’t know what to say. It’s normal to think this way, but it’s actually quite easy once you get the ball rolling. When you first try phone sex, make the build up slow and intense. The line “what are you wearing,” while it might sound cheesy, is actually a perfect one to try. Once you’ve got things hot and heavy, be sure to be very descriptive. Tell your partner exactly what position they are in and how hard or soft you’re doing whatever activity it is that you’re doing. Be sure to make lots of hot noises when you cum or yell out “I’m coming!” so your partner knows how hot they’re making you.

Visuals

In this modern age, phone sex has become about a lot more than just talking on the phone. You can always text your lover a hot photo to get them in the mood before you dial up their number for a hot ring. If you want even more visuals, you can send pictures during the phone sex session to prove that you’re really doing what you say you’re doing. For the ultimate thrill, hop on your favorite camera chat app and do face to face live sex! The key is being prepared ahead of time enough to avoid fumbling through the conversation without becoming so over prepared that what you say feels stale or contrived. Practice makes perfect, and that phone in your pocket may soon be the sexiest item in your life!

“I thank God I was raised Catholic, so sex will always be dirty.”

-John Waters

Definition

Pegging is what happens when you’re a guy with a Dominant girlfriend. It specifically means when your lady puts on her strap on dildo and pounds you in the ass like you’re her bitch. Pegging used to be more taboo but as of now, it’s a pretty regular thing to try. Remember, liking it in the butt doesn’t mean you’re any less of a man; in fact, it may make you an ever better one.

Opening Up

If you’ve never had anything in your backdoor hole before, you may want to stretch it open with some toys before you go for the gold. Try small butt plugs and work your way up to something bigger. Remember, never stick anything up there that doesn’t have a flared base because it can actually get sucked up inside of you and that’s one hospital trip that is hard to explain. Use lots of lube and go slow. Never force anything anally. Just relax and take your time, and things will be loose and opened up before you know it.

History of Pegging

No one really knows when pegging as a practice started, but one can assume that dudes have been sticking things up their butt since the beginning of time. It was first mentioned as a practice in a book by the famous Marquis de Sade published in 1795. It has gained more popularity in recent years, because it has become more acceptable to talk about alternative sexual desires.

Getting Dirty

Many people are quite worried about trying pegging because they don’t want to get dirty. You should know that many people get ass pounded with no mess at all. If you feel especially nervous about it you can give yourself a thorough enema before engaging in any play back there.

“Sex without pain is like food without taste”

– Marquis de Sade

Definition

Painal is a specific kind of anal sex that focuses on the enjoyment of only one of the participants. Rather than shared orgasms and mutual affection, Painal usually features a willing bottom who is attempting to be anally penetrated for the very first time, often without any kind of lube, while in front of the cameras at a hardcore sex studio or while being recorded by a smooth talking boyfriend.

Proper Use of Pain During Anal Sex

The word Painal comes from the two root terms Pain and Anal combined into a new distinctive label. While novices might assume pain is somehow a bad thing, masochists and porn provocateurs are well aware that pain can also be far more positive when applied to the correct degree and in the proper setting.

For example, many submissive bottoms have expressed a desire to feel the full length of their partner’s cock penetrating their asshole, and believe that lube or stretching exercises with butt-plugs or other gaping devices would diminish their anal sensitivity to the glorious moment when he begins thrusting balls-deep into her asshole for the very first time. The sensation of pain emanating from every wrinkle of her rectum as she is stretched open from ass to colon awakens her inner self and focuses all of her attention on the physical, emotional and spiritual components of hardcore anal sex in ways that a lubed up and stretched out anal experience simply never would be able to match.

Painal Safe Words

As with all other forms of consensual pain play, establishing a simple monosyllabic safe word that is easy to remember, and a physical cue that can be used if speaking is inhibited by a ball gag or choke, is essential to high quality Painal sex. When watching Freaky Painal Sex Videos, always keep in mind that the participants both want to be there. One to aggressively fuck a girl in the ass until she is raw and obedient, the other to receive painful anal sex as part of her journey toward sexual enlightenment with an ‘ass-first’ approach to demonstrating her love of her Dominant male partner. Protecting the sanctity of consensual Painal sex is as simple as having a safe word that either participant can use to immediately end the session and pause physical contact until a particular matter is resolved or addressed fully during the intermission.

Alternative Painal Sex

In most cases Painal sex is a term used to describe first time anal sex between a man and his submissive female partner. However, lesbian Painal is becoming more popular recently, with many dykes starting to explore the adventurous aspects of anally punishing their partners with strap-ons, dildos, and other foreign objects being inserted for a purpose similar to the standard Painal sex of straight couples. Note, Painal should not be confused with anal fisting. Anal fisting is about gaining full access to her anal cavity with an entire fist, and while fists can be used as part of a Painal sex session, during Painal sex the goal is to cause anal pain during penetration whether it be done via fist, cock, dildo or the back end of an office stapler.