Category: Q

“I love the way he says my name. With the elegance and utmost respect of a King, just before he bows to his Queen.”

– M.J. Abraham

Definition

Also known as face-sitting, Queening is when a woman makes another person have mouth to genital contact with her, or mouth to anal contact, by sitting on their face.

The Fetish

When someone really wants to be dominated by having another person’s genitals shoved in their mouth, with their full weight behind it, then they are into queening. Having a dominant femme in your sexual relationship might entail you being made to breathe in and out through her vagina for a good amount of time, so it’s best to practice building your lung capacity. This can easily ride alongside a bit of an asphyxiation fetish, so it’s best to be a little careful and make sure your partner knows the signal for you needing them off of you. Queening can also be done with another person’s ass as well, where their anus is in contact with your mouth as they sit on your face. The person’s face that’s being sat upon often uses their tongue inside of the sitter to grant an orgasm to the one that’s doing the “Queening”.

What To Do

This is not an uncommon fetish at all, but involves a little more dominance than regular cunnilingus or anilingus. There are plenty of dommes out there that will gladly shove their genitals or ass on your face – and they have the experience to establish the proper signals with you to know when you can’t breathe. If you’re searching out people for this fetish there will be plenty of online discussions and adult films that involve “Queening”. Since this fetish isn’t rare at all and has plenty of interested parties, it won’t be difficult to find people that will gladly sit on your face.

“The hand is the visible part of the brain.”

-Immanuel Kant

Definition

Quirofilia is a sexual fetish for hands. It can mean being attracted to a specific part of the hand like the fingers, palm, or nails, or it can be an attraction to non-sexual actions done by the hand such as washing or folding clothes.

Give Me a Hand

Quirofilia is one of the least common fetishes, whereas foot fetish is one of the most common. Typically when people think of a hand fetish they think of handjobs. That can clearly be an element of having a hand fetish, but this fetish goes far beyond that. Just like with a foot fetish, people with hand fetishes like to watch hands do actions such as squeezing sand through their fingers, getting dirty and then cleaned off, or getting pretty with a manicure. A quirofiliac often likes hands to touch them in both sexual and non-sexual ways, and can find sexual arousal with both.

Hand Me Some Intensity

The hand is a highly underrated part of the human body. It is packed with nerve endings, making it one of the most sensitive parts of the body. Hands can be used for very practical things but can also be your most intense erogenous zone. You don’t have to have a hand fetish to enjoy the pleasures of getting your hands touched. Try lightly touching your partner’s hand and run your fingertips up and down their fingers. Lightly touch between their fingers and over their palm. Try licking and biting the hand. Try alternating between firm grabs and feather light touch. You might find hands becoming your new favorite body part!

“People are too complicated to have simple labels.”

-Philip Pullman

Definition

A queerplatonic relationship, also known as a QPR, is a relationship that spans the divide between a romantic relationship and a friendship. It is more than friends but less than a typical alloromantic relationship. This is also called a queerplatonic partnership or QPP. 

The One with the Friendship

QPR is often a desirable type of relationship in the aromantic community. Many Aro people want a relationship that is more than friends but less than romantic. QPPs are not specifically monogamous but do not typically identify as polyamorous, as both of those relationship identifiers indicate romantic or sexual partnership. It is common for someone on the aromantic orientation spectrum to have multiple QPRs. 

QPRs challenge the monogamous cultural standards for relationships that say only romantic or sexual partners should build lives together. QPPs will build lives where they raise children, live together, and plan a life together in a similar way to what heteronormative monogamous culture prescribes, but without it being necessarily heterosexual, monogamous and romantic. A Queerplatonic relationship breaks the norm that assumes amorous love is everyone’s goal.

The Golden Girls

In media there has often been hidden representation. One question is, were the Golden Girls in a queerplatonic relationship with each other? Being in a QPR does not mean that you are Aro or Ace, it just indicates that that particular relationship is asexual or aromantic. If you look at the Golden Girls, Blanche certainly dated but the series is mostly about these women being in a “more than friendship” with each other. It seems that a QPR is often a relationship that many people can’t quite put their finger on. They know it is not romantic or sexual but it is more than friends. A QPP is the “aunt” or “friend” who was always there. It is quite a beautiful thought that you can have more than a friendship with someone regardless of your romantic or sexual orientation. 

“If everything seems under control, you’re not going fast enough.”

-Mario Andretti

Definition

A quickie is a impromptu sex that can often feel like a race between partners to see who can cum first! It’s best when you only have a few minutes to spare and you need to do a few quick thrusts. Whether it is at the height of a plane flight, while a spouse leaves the room for a moment, or in the office supply closet when nobody else is around, a quickie can be can revitalize a sex life that has fallen into boring patterns, because having quick sex requires everyone to focus precisely on what they enjoy the most!

Quickie Ideas

If you want to try having a quickie, there are some great ideas and fantasies to act out. Have your partner come over, not say anything, fuck them quickly and then have them leave. All without saying a word. You can also have them visit you at the office and have a secret quickie somewhere at work before you head out to lunch together. You don’t actually need a reason to have a fast sex session, but if you want to make one up there are tons of reasons and ideas to make them work for just about anyone.

Imbalance

Due to physical mechanics, most quickies are satisfying to one of the partners more than the other. This is because men usually cum more quickly and easily than a girl. That’s not to say this is true for everyone, but it is true for many. If you have a quickie and you get off pretty fast, make sure to get your partner off later on, when you have more time. Otherwise they may start to resent you and not want to give you as much pleasure if you keep getting off without thinking of them.