Category: S

“The car crash is a fertilizing rather than a destructive event.”

-Vaughan in The Movie Crash

Definition

Symphorophilia is a fetish that is actually more common than you think it might be, though it is still fairly rare. It is all about people who get off on disasters, commonly, car crashes. For some, watching an adverse event on the news is enough to send them into sexual convulsions that result in the ultimate pleasure – orgasm – but for others, they actually try to coordinate their involvement in accidents, which can lead to the ultimate end – death. This is a fetish that can be as harmless as watching TV, or one of the most dangerous things ever.

Why People Like It

Think of it. In an emergency your heart races, your body kicks into high gear and the adrenaline starts to pump. You may develop super human strength or find the will to live that you’ve never felt before. It makes sense that some people would associate these incredible events with sexuality, which often causes similar symptoms like a pounding heart and heightened senses. However, for some, it’s more about the mystery of what will happen in a planned accident that gives them the sexual thrill.

Save It For Virtual Reality

Obviously, it’s really dangerous to put others at risk to satisfy your fetish, and it’s selfish too. Other people could get seriously hurt if you plan a car crash, including your sex partner. Do not plan dangerous acts that will affect other people! If you want to fantasize you can use dirty talk to speak out your fantasies, or even watch movies online of crashes or fires, but making your fantasies into reality would just be irresponsible. Don’t put other people in danger just to fulfill your sexual desires when there are so many ways to get your kicks otherwise. Fortunately entire waves of Virtual Reality porn devices are becoming available and are a perfect outlet for these sorts of sexual antics!

“I am sure there are things that can’t be cured by a good bath but I can’t think of one.”

-Sylvia Plath

Definition

Everyone has experiences with showers and baths. They like them because they often feel nice and refreshed afterwards. However, there is actually a fetish for showers and baths, which is known as ablutophilia. Yes, this fetish is on the rare side, but the people who are this type of freak do not merely love to get wet and clean, they actually get turned on when they get in the shower. Luckily for them women in the bath is a classic subject for both softcore and hardcore porn, so it is relatively easy for them to fulfill their fetish. In addition, almost everyone has a bathtub and a shower, so they can enact their sexy fantasies to their hearts desire.

Shower Sex

Shower sex is notably awkward, but there are a few ways that you can do it that might make it a little bit better. First of all, there are special dildos that can attach to the shower wall with suction cups. These can enhance your experience, with added phalluses to reach those hard to reach places. There are also special suction cup handles you can get that are specifically for sexual purposes. What you will want to search for is a locking suction handle. This will make sex safer in the shower, which is a notorious slippery place in the house.

Opening The Bathroom Door

Some people might like showers and baths for sex because they have positive associations since that is a place where people spend a lot of time. There are also some people who think that the bath or shower is a place where you don’t often see people, because we have been taught that privacy is key, so there may be an aspect of voyeurism in there too, as a reason why people love it. Plus, everyone looks hotter when they are all soaking wet!

“Your clothes should be tight enough to show you’re a woman.”

-Marilyn Monroe

Definition

Spandex fetish is pretty clear on what it is simply from the name. It is a fetish for people who love to see someone else in spandex, or for those who like to wear spandex. Luckily for these fetishists, spandex is quite affordable and easy to attain. It is often used in fitness gear, and some people have come across this fetish from seeing hot girls at the gym or on their bikes around town. It’s also possible that seeing sexy gymnasts or circus performers in their leotards brings on the fetish too. Most agree that anyone wearing a skintight spandex outfit is hot, these fetishists just take their love of the material a bit further than most.

The Joys of Spandex

The reason why this fetish is so popular is that it is just so simple to enact. Go down to your closest big box store and you will find tons of spandex garments, probably for very cheap. Leggings, which are in style now, and tank tops for fitness are almost always made of the revolutionary stretchy material. Some spandex fetishists have an affinity for a certain garment, which may make it a bit harder to easily find the clothes that will help you get off, but it is still not impossible. Some enjoy tight spandex turtlenecks, while others enjoy full body suits.

Other Skin Tight Materials

Darlexx is a unique material that is also loved by some spandex fetishists who also love bondage. It is thicker and more durable, making it available for some more nefarious uses than simply sporting it to tease and tantalize. Others who enjoy nylon stockings and Lycra garments will find friends in the spandex fetishist community. They are basically enjoying the same skintight qualities through different materials. Some have a strong preference for one material over another, but most just like to see a body’s hot curves through barely there clothing.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Definition

A service submissive is one who truly gets off on doing things for their Dom. This can even be a non-sexual thing like running errands for them and making sure they have their dinner when they come home from work. In this type of relationship, the sub really makes their whole life about trying to help the Dom reach their goals. It can be highly related to the nostalgia fetish in which people return to the traditional family style with a submissive wife who serves the husband. However, outside of that specific fetish, service submissives can be men too.

Good Service Is Always On

While BDSM play is great, being a service submissive is about so much more than just a play session or a fun night out at a play party. It is about doing everything you can to make your Dom’s life better. This type of relationship should not be embarked upon lightly. It’s the kind of things that requires a lot of thought, and perhaps a collaring ceremony or slave contract to make sure that everyone gets what they need and want at the end of the day. Besides being of sexual service, a sub of this nature could even help a Dom at work, or provide the simple service of being a conversational partner who is always with advice and support.

Finding the Diamond in the Rough

It is really hard to find a true service submissive, but if you look long and hard enough, they are out there. You can often find them on kink specific dating sites. However, if you’re already in a relationship, don’t despair. You can often bring this type of kinkiness into a relationship because it can range from gentle and vanilla to extreme. It’s best to bring it in as a sexual idea at first, and then see how your partner enjoys it. Once you’ve established that they like to be sub and you like to be Dom, suggest other ways they can help you. You may be surprised how many people get off on make someone else feel good while improving their own lot in life as a result.

“Fuck and smoke plenty of cigarettes.”

-Charles Bukowski

Definition

The smoking fetish is for anyone allured or aroused by the idea of someone smoking a cigarette or a cigar. They might enjoy the object passing the lips, a clear oral fixation symbol of a cock if you ask Dr. Freud. They may enjoy the smoke itself, and get off from the scent which clings to all of their garments. They may simply have great memories of hot people smoking in the past, or good associations with their favorite stars in movies who have been smokers. Whatever the reason why someone enjoys the smoking fetish, it is an easy fantasy to bring to life. Cigarettes and cigars are readily available to most over the age of 18 or 21 in most jurisdictions, and a growing number of regions are now making marijuana legally available as well.

Get Started

If you want to enjoy sexy smoking all you have to do is go down to the local corner store and pick up a pack of smokes. Then go home and light up! Many aspects of smoking fetish play revolve around the skill of blowing smoke rings or blowing the smoke in the other person’s mouth, which adds a little bit of breath play to the sexy affair.

Human Ashtray

Some BDSM players enjoy serving their masters and mistresses to the highest degree. These people sometimes don’t mind, or even actively enjoy, serving as a human ashtray. They will kneel next to their dominant with their mouth wide open as the Dom smokes and ashes inside of the sub’s mouth. If they are a good sub, they will swallow the burnt ash. For those who have no desire to swallow ashes, there are also special gags that one can purchase that have an ashtray attachment.

Smoking Really Isn’t Great for Your Health

The one thing to keep in mind with this fetish is that smoking really isn’t great for your health at all. It’s known to cause cancer and other illnesses. Yes, it can sexy, but it is definitely recommended to limit your exposure to smoke from cigarettes and cigars or any other source. Living a healthy lifestyle usually means living longer and that longevity gives you more time to be freaky!

“When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.”

-Franklin D. Roosevelt

Definition

In Japanese the word Shibari ( シバリ) simply means “to tie” but among the contemporary BDSM community the word has come to take on additional meaning. Shibari style rigging is used to generate geometric rope patterns and shapes that contrast beautifully with the natural curves of the human in formally preset positions of bondage. In Shibari, the submissive is thought of as the artistic canvas, the rope is conceptualized to be the paint and brush, while the rigger is part Dom and part artist.

History

Shibari dates back to the origins of Hojo-jutsu, a martial art specifically created to explore the best methods of restraining captives in feudal Japan from 1400 to 1700. Samurai used Hojo-jutsu as a form of imprisonment, but the honor of these ancient Samurai warriors and the code of Bushido required Samurai to treat their prisoners well. In this way, the artistic elements of Shibari are intended to honor the person being tied and to care for their dignity while simultaneously restricting their movement or using painful positions to draw out information from them. In the late 1800′s and early 1900′s Kinbaku (a new form of erotic Hojo-jutsu) evolved, and spawned much of what practitioners now experiment with when engaging in modern artistic rope bondage.

The Right Rope

The most common mistake made by novice Doms is the selection of the wrong rope. Just as a chef’s dishes deserve only the best ingredients, any serious Dom is aware that the tools and materials they choose are vital to the success of their rigging. Wax coated clothes line is a favorite of many qualified Doms for its smooth ability to glide against itself. Rope thickness is also an essential element of Shibari bondage as a rope that is too thin can cause skin damage while a rope that is too thick becomes far too cumbersome for complicated rigging.

“The empty vessel makes the loudest sound.”

-William Shakespeare

Definition

Sounding, also known as penal insertion or cock-stuffing is the practice of inserting objects into the urethra involves male submissives. Sometimes sounding can be affiliated with medical play, such as catheter insertion into the penis as well. Women can be sounders as well, but that is more complicated and rare since access to their pee hole is not as simple or obvious. The penis is often associated with masculinity and power, making sounding a direct way for a Dom to emasculate their sub and take their sense of personal power away from them with the cathartic release of burning sensations, physical pain and the body’s own natural endorphins automatically playing a part in the ritualistic process.

What Is A Sound?

Novices are often confused by the term Sounding because they falsely believe that this fetish has much to do with audible screams or the noises made by the insertion of objects into the penis. In reality the term comes from the medical term sounds uses to describe instruments used for probing or dilating passages within the body such as urethral sounds or uterine sounds.

Sounding In Silence

An even more advanced form of this fetish combines sounding with restrictions on noise. A Dom may tell their submissive to hold to completely still without uttering any noises at all for the duration of the insertion. Gliding a medical sound, pinky or some other probing object deep inside their playmate’s penis while watching them carefully and punishing them severely for even the slightest grunt or whisper. Gagging a sub during this kind of play may also require safe motions that can be shared by ‘tapping out’ rather than speaking.

Blinded By The Light

Many submissives have detailed a similar experience during extreme sounding play. They claim to have seen a bright white light during the climax of the experience. Some believe that this momentary out of body sensation and shrouding light is related to the light described by survivors of near-death experiences and might represent an emotional breakthrough of the membrane that separates the living world from what exists beyond it.

“Put on a pair of fishnet stockings and find your inner sexiness!”

-Nia Vardalos

Definition

Stockings are the closest garment a woman wears next to her skin and they have an intimate relationship with her pussy, sopping up every droplet of juice when she becomes excited while fully dressed. It makes perfect sense that many would fetishize this sensual fabric as a result. Some people like these garments only when a girl is wearing them, while others like everything to do with including the feel of the material. There are different types of stockings, like thigh-highs, which are usually worn with garters, and full ones that go up to the waist, often called pantyhose. There are ones made of nylon, and others that are fishnet.

Nylon Bondage

Some people love stockings so much that they want to get tied up with them instead of ropes or cuffs. Nylons are a particularly good and safe material for bondage. It is stretchy so it is unlikely to cut off circulation, and it can make for comfortable yet inescapable bondage. It is also breathable so it is great to use as a gag or even a hood over the face. They are the ideal material because if you have to cut them, they are fairly affordable to replace and are readily available at your local drug store. Nylons feel less harsh than rope wrapped around your wrists, ankles or genitals and it can quickly become an exciting, far more sensual object to use as a restraint.

Stocking Encasement

The people who love stockings the most love to be encased in layers of nylons. Some like just one layer of nylons while others enjoy them so thick that it becomes hard for them to move like a mummy. Stockings can easily be cut and arranged to cover the whole body. It’s best to use a full pair of tights for the legs, and a full pair of tights with the crotch cut out for the torso and arms. You can use a knee high to cover the face to complete the look. With millions of stockings just sitting in bedroom drawers doing nothing, now may be the best time to take them and see what they can do for you!

“You want to be happy? You want to be well? Then put your boots on.”

-Norah Vincent

Definition

While some people love feet, others go gaga over shoes and boots. Many like strappy sandals, others prefer secretary pumps, and plenty prefer the full coverage of leather boots. With the latter, there is also a whole underground fetish culture of bootblacking, in which subs get off on polishing their Dominant’s shoes. It makes complete sense, since when getting your shoes polished you’re sitting high up on a throne-like seat, and the bootblack is kneeling on the floor beneath you servicing your needs in the physical and emotional sense.

Shoe Play

If you’ve been thinking of bringing shoe play into the bedroom, consider making the shoes an integral part of the play. Most think of shoes as static objects only for wearing, but they can be quite dynamic. When wearing shoes, you can stand over your submissive partner and carefully rub your shoes over the most sensitive parts of that person’s body. Activities like spit-polishing and leather licking will give your boots or heels the shine and polish they need while getting worshiped by the shoe freak of your choice. For a sexy spin on shoes, take one off and tie its strap across you sub’s mouth, making a fetish-friendly gag complete with the aroma of soft leather and your own sweet sweat. Some even like to have shoes poked into their orifices, with a stiletto heel often serving as a makeshift sex toy.

Why Shoes

Shoes such as high heels and boots look extremely sexy when a person puts them on, and can convey a sense of power or elegance depending on the fashion of their fit. You may have even tried this fetish unknowingly by asking your lady lover to leave her boots on while fucking her – or for you it might be associated with a fetish for feet as well. Almost anything can become sexualized, but shoes and boots have been primary fashion cues for sex since hundreds of years ago. Why do you think women are willing to shell out hundreds of dollars on a new pair of sandals?

“A love triangle is a threesome delayed.”

-Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Definition

Swinging is a lifestyle in which people who are in committed relationships enjoy swapping partners or having group sex with other like minded couples. It is different than other forms of non-monogamy because the members of the couples don’t necessarily try to have other loving relationships with people, they simply fuck them, usually in the presence of their partner, who may be a girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife. Many people find that swinging can invigorate a marriage in which the sex life have gone downhill.

Know the Terms

There are special terms that people who are into swinging know about, and you should familiarize yourself with them before diving in, so you’ll know what people are talking about. The most important ones are full swap and soft swap. Full swap means that the couples are willing to go all the way up to and including fucking. Soft swap means that the couple doesn’t want to have sex, but are open to other sex acts. They will usually specify their other boundaries to verify what acts they are OK with. It’s important to ask if someone is full swap or soft swap before engaging in play at a swinger’s party!

How to Get Into the Lifestyle

Many people have fantasies about swinging, but find it hard to figure out how to break into the lifestyle, which can seem like a clique. This is just not true as swingers are some of the most friendly and open-minded people you will ever meet! It’s recommended to check out a public swinger’s party, and make some friends there. Then you will meet people in the local community, and many of these players have private parties on their own time where more fun happens. This is how you can make long lasting friendships in the swinger community. If you don’t have a partner but are interested in swinging, you should try to meet people on special online dating sites just for those who are open to the lifestyle.